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I'm 37. My partner of more than 10 years recently left me after sleeping with a work colleague. It is clear she was no longer attracted to me, and didn't want to have sex with me. She tells me she still loves me deeply and wants to come home, but that she is worried about this side of things. Our sex life was pretty dismal. I always had to make the effort to instigate sex while she just became less interested. I have tried to talk about this, but she never found it easy to open up.
I want her to come back because we are great together, but I am worried that she will not communicate. For a long time she has suffered from anxiety disorders and panic attacks. I also don't know how to explain that in long-term relationships you have to work hard to retain the excitement and passion and stay sexually attracted to each other. Any advice appreciated.
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Source: http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2011/may/05/partner-doesnt-want-sex-with-me
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