Friday, April 29, 2011

'Can I leave my wife for another woman without hurting my family?'

Post your advice below. The best responses will be published in G2 next Friday

I was brought up a Catholic, and when my girlfriend got pregnant within four weeks of dating, I was a dad at 17, and married at 18. I had multiple one-night stands and we split up several times. We had another child several years later, but a year after that I met someone else and fell in love for the first time. The joy of being with her was outweighed by not being with my children; I eventually could stand no more, split from the woman I loved and tried to kill myself.

After a separation and court proceedings, my wife and I reconciled. I love my kids, but despite medication, I have developed alcohol and drug issues to numb the pain. Recently I met someone. For the second time in my life I am in love. How can I give up a chance of real happiness? My children are 26 and 14, I am 44. I want to leave with minimal hurt to my family ? is this possible?

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